"This is also what kills me. We are talking adults. Grown men and women whose minds have turned to mush. My friend tells me "I would bash the computer with a bat" or "Tell him that he is not allowed to play". How do I tell my husband that he is not allowed to do something. I am not his mother. I don't feel that is an option to me. I feel that if these are the bad choices he is making that one day he will see what the repercussions are. I don't feel I am ready to make any drastic moves as yet, but I know that in my heart I don't feel the same as I did for this man. I know that those rare times that he says "Give me a kiss" I don't want to go near him. This is a man who forgets to brush his teeth, sometimes doesn't bathe everyday, 2 weeks ago, he wore the same pants for a week, and all his shirts have drips on them from eating at the computer. He GROSSES ME OUT."
8 Comments:
Divorce him. He love his fantasy world more than his family.
Mar 2, 2005, 9:42:00 AM
Get him hooked on World of Warcraft. No, I'm serious. This game is one that apparently is made so that you don't have to make it your second career to have fun. He should be able to log on, play some, then log off. I know from my experience with EQ back in the first 6 months, getting anything done took hours. WoW might actually help wean him down to a healthier level.
Or if he likes superheroes, try City of Heroes. You can log in a get a mission done in 15-20 minutes, log out, boom your done. Perfect for the casual gamer that has a real life outside of what is (for most folks) just a computer hobby.
Good luck
Mar 2, 2005, 11:18:00 AM
I kind of doubt that getting him hooked onto a game that requires less time for quests and other things is going to help the matter... he'll probably still be a slob and forget to shave - those aren't things that will change just because he suddenly has more time.
Mar 2, 2005, 1:28:00 PM
my husband and I am going through the same thing rite now and i cant stand it!! He has a 1 yr old daughter and does the same exact things as your husband its disgusting!! I wish I knew what i could do to help him with this terrible addiction!!!
Mar 15, 2005, 10:23:00 PM
Tell him the truth, he TURNS YOU OFF because he has put his addiction before his family. Then suggest a cut back to his gaming to wean him off. If that doesn't work ..marrige counseling. If he says NO. Then tell him to take his computer to a hotel where they can be happy together.
Jan 8, 2007, 1:23:00 AM
I know how you feel. My husband only works to pay for his WOW. He will sometimes play for 11 hours at a time. I don't remember the last we were intimate. I don't remember the last tie we had a conversation that didn't involve WOW. I'm trying to talk to him about nursing school, saving lives whatnot, all I get back is WOW. He doesn't understand that it isn't real. If I told him I was going to leave him he would not care as long as I didn't try to take the computer. Which might happen anyway.
Aug 6, 2007, 5:28:00 PM
It really amazes me how some people are. play eq2 all the time. I works a 40hr job as a programmer, I excersize 1.5 hours a day, I am engaged, I am studying to go to medical school, and I play eq2 about 8-10 hours a week. Usually Sundays are designated as "relax and do nothing nothing day." so that is when I play. But on those days I might take the fiance to the zoo, movies, or just a roller blade ride down the canal. What ever is left is the tim eI get to play and that is how it has always been. When I am logged on and playing it amazes me how many peopel do have this thing as thier life. One guild tried to recruit me, but had this stipulation that I needed to show up at least 3 times a week for raids. Needless to say I told them I could ot had other commitments. They kept on insisting saying that I should think of it as a"study break". I told them, but what about my future wife, she does not think that. She would want some time together because if I am not studying, then I should do sothing with her. She is absolutly right! However though recently she went back to school and some extra time so she tried playing, and now she also plays casually. So there are times instead of sitting in front of the TV together at night, we play for about 2-3 hours and then go to bed. ITs actually quite fun playing together and now the way I see it, it is something we do together. However, if she did not play, I woould be doing sosmething else with her that we BOTH enjoy! As far as being a slob, well that is just plain disgusting!
Sep 23, 2009, 8:01:00 AM
It really amazes me how some people are. play eq2 all the time. I works a 40hr job as a programmer, I excersize 1.5 hours a day, I am engaged, I am studying to go to medical school, and I play eq2 about 8-10 hours a week. Usually Sundays are designated as "relax and do nothing nothing day." so that is when I play. But on those days I might take the fiance to the zoo, movies, or just a roller blade ride down the canal. What ever is left is the tim eI get to play and that is how it has always been. When I am logged on and playing it amazes me how many peopel do have this thing as thier life. One guild tried to recruit me, but had this stipulation that I needed to show up at least 3 times a week for raids. Needless to say I told them I could ot had other commitments. They kept on insisting saying that I should think of it as a"study break". I told them, but what about my future wife, she does not think that. She would want some time together because if I am not studying, then I should do sothing with her. She is absolutly right! However though recently she went back to school and some extra time so she tried playing, and now she also plays casually. So there are times instead of sitting in front of the TV together at night, we play for about 2-3 hours and then go to bed. ITs actually quite fun playing together and now the way I see it, it is something we do together. However, if she did not play, I woould be doing sosmething else with her that we BOTH enjoy! As far as being a slob, well that is just plain disgusting!
Sep 23, 2009, 8:01:00 AM
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