It's 10 pm. Do you know where you and your loved ones are? Here is a collection of experiences from those who live / have lived with an obsessive MMOG gamer and from those who have lived the experience of obsessive MMOG gaming.

Thursday, May 11, 2006

"Well, after playing 2 years. I finally did it. I quit WoW. I deleted my characters, my WoW, and my subscription. My friends asked me why I deleted all of the characters, and I told them the sad truth. I had to. The game is addicting, and it is hard to pull away from, even for the short bit that I did recently to quit. If I didn't delete them, I would reinstall, and resubscribe to pay my money to Blizzard. Docking in 60 hours a week of the game, while I was still in highschool, I realised, atleast for a moment, was way too much. So I immediatly pulled the plug while I had the clarity. Now I can go out every weekend, see my friends more, and actually do my schoolwork. And I can say that I do this, without really meaning 'Yeah, I went to the movies once last month... or maybe it was the month before that.'"

Finally free of this technological Heroine"

6 Comments:

Blogger Saucy Sister said...

My husband is addicted to Warcraft. His schedule looks like this, WoW, work, WoW, sleep, Wow. Weeks can go days without meaningful conversation or even sex. He doesn't spend time with me or the kids, and when he does (under compulsion), he actually has withdrawl symptoms. It is hurting our marriage. I actually attempted had an emotional affiar last year with a co-worker to get his attention.
He doesn't see WoW as an addiction. He thnks I am lucky he isn't at a bar. What do I do?

May 12, 2006, 10:47:00 PM

 
Anonymous MightyJack said...

You can find support and advice from people who are in the same boat as you or have been there at Everquest Widows, at http://groups.yahoo.com/group/EverQuest-Widows and at the Family and Friends section of Online Gamers Anonymous at http://www.olganon.org .

My best short answer for what you should do is to read as much as you can get your hands on about what to do if you are living with an alcoholic and follow that advice. The advice for dealing with a loved one's alcoholism and for dealing with a loved one's online gaming addiction is very similar, sad to say. He may think that you're lucky that he isn't an alcoholic, but the truth is that in many meaningful ways he might as well be.

May 13, 2006, 1:20:00 AM

 
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I just wanted to say to the author of this post that it is wonderful that you’ve decided to leave the game behind. While decision can be a very difficult to make, it’s the most rewarding one, not only to self, but those around you and those who care about you. Good luck to you!

May 14, 2006, 7:49:00 AM

 
Blogger J said...

Hey saucy sister,

it's just a standard gamer excuse: "At least I'm not out at a bar", "At least I'm not cheating on you", "At least I'm not a psycho serial killer"... perhaps you have also heard the other popular "It's the same as watching TV". Well, the truth is, it is... IF he plays for a reasonable amount. Given that he has a family and a job, how many hours would he normally watch TV? I am willing to bet that he spends more hours gaming per week than he would have watching TV... I mean, how long can you really watch TV without getting bored? ;) Well, mightyjack mentioned to good support group online, meanwhile, be aware that you cannot convince him about his addiction / obsession. If you have the chance, record all the times that he is playing over a monthlong period and then - when you find a good time and are in a calm mood - sit down with him and show him how much he plays. Show him in comparision how much time he spends with the children and you. Or sleep.

May 14, 2006, 4:05:00 PM

 
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dude you did the right thing, I did exactly the same 2 months ago...delted my characters, unsibscribed and I even destroyed the discs. Did a last /played before quitting....125 days in that piece of shit....3000 hours wasted.

Was very boring at the start but when your life starts getting sorted it's nice and you realize what you've missed. Anyhow best of luck and again: you did the right thing.

May 16, 2006, 2:16:00 PM

 
Blogger Larry said...

Man, I can totally relate. I did the same thing with Neverwinter Nights. To be honest the holy spirit covicted me to stop. (spells and the sexual overtones) I moved on to one of my life-long favs The Civilization franchise.I was even on a development team of the new expansion pack for Civ 4. It affected my relationship with God, my wife, and my recovery. I was praying and all I could see was that cd spinning around in my mind. I uninstalled it broke the CD and quit the team. I have never looked back.
It is a tough thing to do because there is no stigma to it. Drug and alchohol addiction causes guilt and shame. Games? are games. lol Good job and good luck

Blessings!

Larry

May 17, 2006, 9:51:00 PM

 

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