"I foolishly bought my husband Everquest about 3 years ago. I also made sure he had 2 computers to run the game on and to chat with the other players in chat rooms on the other computer. I let him play as much as he wanted to and never asked that he try to limit his online game playing. 2 or 3 hour's a day turned into 5 or 6 hours a day and then to 15 to 20 hours per day on the weekends. I suffered in silence as our married life just fell by the way side, the last year and a half have been miserable with him either sleeping, working or playing Everquest. When Everquest 2 came out it just got worse and worse, He played in the basement and so i never really knew exactly what he was doing in and with the game. Well, i decided one night to go downstairs and see how he was since i had not seen or heard a sound out of him for over 10 hours. I get down there and he has a headset on and a microphone and his talking in realtime over Teamspeak to one of the players. I tell him i think that is taking it a little far, chat on line but forget the Teamspeak thing as he is devoting so much time to this game that he is like a zombie day in and day out, and seems like every week is treating more and more like I am inconveniencing him by even talking to him. I ask him to start limiting his time on this game, by now he is doing over 55 hours a week, he is going to work daily but falls asleep in chairs and even while eating.
I mention it and he says to stop nagging him. Well last month... i went downstairs and again found him with a headset on and a microphone. Talking in real time to his Everquest Wife. Did you know that players can Marry in this Game? That's just plain crazy. Turns out this Everquest wife and him have been married for over 6 months and not only playing the game but also caring on an affair in real life. As I stood there she was telling him to do something or another for her as she is being attacked by some monster in the game, I looked over at the 2nd pc screen and seen the pictures they had exchanged (naked) and that they had just finished having Skype sex. I told him to choose her or me right then and there. He told me that the game role playing got serious on a personal level when they decided to talk in real time, i guess talk about the game soon became talk about the characters having sex and they did in Everquest the Beta version and from there they were excited by each others character's, she was level 68, he was a level 69 and they fell in love with each others character and then each other (although they never met in real life) they were going to but i stopped it in time.
He said they had cyber sex, phone sex, Skype sex, and she even called him at work!! He said Everquest let him lead a life outside our marrage.I was so hurt i just died right then and there, no words can even describe the pain of a game allowing characters to Marry. They took the fantasy role playing up a notch and it was leading to our breakup. I asked him why are you doing this, get this, i mean really, get this stupid reply he gave me. "because you were not spending time with me" HELLO!!!! you were always either playing the game, sleeping or at work!"