It's 10 pm. Do you know where you and your loved ones are? Here is a collection of experiences from those who live / have lived with an obsessive MMOG gamer and from those who have lived the experience of obsessive MMOG gaming.

Wednesday, September 28, 2005

"My boyfriend has tried to suck me into his everquest hole before; sometimes it's funny but other times it really hurts. He would bring this big everquest manual with him everywhere, even on our dates, I guess he thought he could get me to read it.Sometimes he would try to get me into other games too, as if I would begin to understand his addiction. I tried to understand I even let him show me a demo of that crap one time... I still cry for those wasted minuites in my life that I will never get back."

4 Comments:

Anonymous ~Chris said...

I've read this post somewhere before.

Sep 30, 2005, 1:07:00 AM

 
Blogger beemoh said...

I've been reading this site on and off for a while now, and have noticed that there are, broadly speaking, only a small number of stories on this site, just told in many different ways.

It's the basic framework of this story which tends to stick with me the most, becuase there's always one or two sentences which stand out over the rest.

"Sometimes he would try to get me into other games too"
"I tried to understand I even let him show me a demo of that crap one time"

Not to trivialise what these people go through, but more often than not these stories simply stem from one half of a relationship liking games, and the other half (usually the female one) not. It's probably less an "addiction" problem so much as an "incompatability" problem.

Chances are the relationship could have been saved if said other half was a little more tolerant of the first half's interests, and didn't just dismiss the entire artform off-hand, perhaps played along.

They could have found another shared interest to bring them together.

Obviously this isn't 100% effective, there's stories on this site which have gone down this route and fallen both ways, but in the many cases like these the other half has't tried.

It's a real shame. But ultimately, their loss.

/b

Oct 13, 2005, 4:41:00 AM

 
Blogger J said...

Hi Mark,

Good observation. It is pretty much the same story, over and over. And one of the reasons why I started this blog in the first place. I used to think and say things like "well, those are only rare / extreme cases" or "they probably had a not so good relationship anyways". But (and this is not backed up by statistics, jut my own observations) this just seems to happen over and over so many times that I pretty quickly started to realize that playing an MMOG for 35+ hours a week definitely had some role in the deterioration of relationships. Me and my ex-spouse played EQ together, and let me tell, it definitely didn't help keep our relationship together. Just the simple fact that you spend so many hours a week being unavailable mentally from someone who is supposed you are sharing your life with will almost surely put a big rift into it. Why else would long-distance relationships often not make it? Btw, my relationship was pretty much doomed because we both ended up playing EQ with different people... that's 8 years down the drain, I'm not blaming the game, but I am blaming the fact that we did not find any time to share even online - his online friends were not mine and vice versa, and we both choose to play how we want to rather than to find time to spend together.

Also, sometimes a breakup can improve lives, and I wouldn't necessarily call that a loss.

Cheers!

Oct 15, 2005, 5:51:00 PM

 
Blogger J said...

Sorry, for my typing mistakes, I'm pretty tired :)

Oct 15, 2005, 5:52:00 PM

 

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